Comments on: Baby Steps http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/ Milwaukee mom working to stay sane. Sun, 15 Jan 2012 13:33:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Stephanie http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3863 Stephanie Sat, 25 Jul 2009 03:52:54 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3863 Welcome to motherhood. It's the most amazing, marvelous, miraculous, demanding, difficult job ever. And - you're right - it is "unpredictable" in so many ways. No amount of reading or thinking about parenting can quite prepare you for the reality of it - the overwhelming love that greets you when your baby enters the world. Welcome to motherhood. It’s the most amazing, marvelous, miraculous, demanding, difficult job ever. And – you’re right – it is “unpredictable” in so many ways. No amount of reading or thinking about parenting can quite prepare you for the reality of it – the overwhelming love that greets you when your baby enters the world.

]]> By: Christina http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3129 Christina Tue, 26 May 2009 21:43:14 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3129 I do not think that the NEWborn phase is the easiest - getting nearly no sleep, and adjusting to sharing your life with a little one is very difficult. I'd say that your easiest time probably comes between 2 - 8 months (or whenever they start crawling :p). Once they're mobile, watch out. I had terrible post-partum depression - it knocked me flat on my butt, so do not feel bad, or guilty. Sometimes it just happens. I have a 17 month old now and I can't see my life without him, much as I'd like to escape to a mommy-wonderland-spa-getaway for a day or two. I wouldn't want to escape forever :) I do not think that the NEWborn phase is the easiest – getting nearly no sleep, and adjusting to sharing your life with a little one is very difficult. I’d say that your easiest time probably comes between 2 – 8 months (or whenever they start crawling :p). Once they’re mobile, watch out.

I had terrible post-partum depression – it knocked me flat on my butt, so do not feel bad, or guilty. Sometimes it just happens.

I have a 17 month old now and I can’t see my life without him, much as I’d like to escape to a mommy-wonderland-spa-getaway for a day or two. I wouldn’t want to escape forever :)

]]> By: Ross Clapper http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3128 Ross Clapper Sun, 24 May 2009 04:35:09 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3128 Ok first of all you're doing great. I think your issue is you over informed yourself so you had everything set in your mind it'll go this way. Any mother or father that's been where you are nothing ever goes as planned. You have to accept that & learn to flow with it & adapt. I completely 100% disagree with your mom one because every kid is different, & two it doesn't get harder the challenges just change. Have some confidence in your abilities don't listen to other people raise Jude how you want & you'll be fine. Because you maybe new at this but you know him better than any book or anyone else. Ok first of all you’re doing great. I think your issue is you over informed yourself so you had everything set in your mind it’ll go this way. Any mother or father that’s been where you are nothing ever goes as planned. You have to accept that & learn to flow with it & adapt.

I completely 100% disagree with your mom one because every kid is different, & two it doesn’t get harder the challenges just change.

Have some confidence in your abilities don’t listen to other people raise Jude how you want & you’ll be fine. Because you maybe new at this but you know him better than any book or anyone else.

]]> By: Amy http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3127 Amy Fri, 22 May 2009 21:12:37 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3127 I got that sad feeling for the first week. I cried at the birthing center at the scary prospect of now bringing my son home. What to do next?? Breastfeeding will cause you some unbelievable pain in the beginning. That's why most people stop. But after you get over that first few weeks of pain, it will not hurt and will be what boobs were created for. I am so glad I stuck with it. Don't forget, it's free as well. Formula is expensive and not as good for him. Hang in there, and nap whenever possible. If possible. I got that sad feeling for the first week. I cried at the birthing center at the scary prospect of now bringing my son home. What to do next??
Breastfeeding will cause you some unbelievable pain in the beginning. That’s why most people stop. But after you get over that first few weeks of pain, it will not hurt and will be what boobs were created for. I am so glad I stuck with it. Don’t forget, it’s free as well. Formula is expensive and not as good for him. Hang in there, and nap whenever possible. If possible.

]]> By: Chrissy http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3126 Chrissy Fri, 22 May 2009 16:33:49 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3126 Hi Esther, I have been watching and anticipating your son's arrival. It is exciting to see another mother jump into this adventure. It is very straining and makes your reconsider everything you thought you knew about life, your priorities and especially children, but somehow you do make it through. I just read your latest blog and I just felt I had to say, it will get easier...and when it does, you tend to look back and say "where did those first months go?"..but from a mother that was so afraid to break my son or that I was starving him, somehow it all comes together..breast feeding is rough, but I was very sad in the end when I did give it up..cherish these moments as best as you can...even though my times with my son in those first few months were full of anxiety, I feel like they went by all too fast. Now he's 1.5 and he barely lets me get a hug because he is way to busy exploring! I hope and pray for the best..you are doing a great job! Hi Esther,

I have been watching and anticipating your son’s arrival. It is exciting to see another mother jump into this adventure. It is very straining and makes your reconsider everything you thought you knew about life, your priorities and especially children, but somehow you do make it through. I just read your latest blog and I just felt I had to say, it will get easier…and when it does, you tend to look back and say “where did those first months go?”..but from a mother that was so afraid to break my son or that I was starving him, somehow it all comes together..breast feeding is rough, but I was very sad in the end when I did give it up..cherish these moments as best as you can…even though my times with my son in those first few months were full of anxiety, I feel like they went by all too fast. Now he’s 1.5 and he barely lets me get a hug because he is way to busy exploring! I hope and pray for the best..you are doing a great job!

]]> By: Aunt Betsey http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3123 Aunt Betsey Wed, 20 May 2009 13:25:54 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3123 I both agree and disagree with your mom. The handy thing about newborns is that they sleep a lot, and that allows you to rest, as long as you don't insist on accomplishing "stuff." But you've been through, and are still in, an exhausting, physically painful, wildly emotional and hormonal time, and as that passes and the day to day life with a baby becomes second nature, I think things get easier. And then they start smiling at you! For us hard-working, perfectionist types it's really a gift to ourselves and our babies to settle into the process, and not feel you have to be doing anything else. The time passes so quickly and all these days are precious, precious, precious. I both agree and disagree with your mom. The handy thing about newborns is that they sleep a lot, and that allows you to rest, as long as you don’t insist on accomplishing “stuff.” But you’ve been through, and are still in, an exhausting, physically painful, wildly emotional and hormonal time, and as that passes and the day to day life with a baby becomes second nature, I think things get easier. And then they start smiling at you! For us hard-working, perfectionist types it’s really a gift to ourselves and our babies to settle into the process, and not feel you have to be doing anything else. The time passes so quickly and all these days are precious, precious, precious.

]]> By: Courtney http://www.faintstarlite.com/2009/05/baby-steps/comment-page-1/#comment-3122 Courtney Wed, 20 May 2009 05:27:31 +0000 http://www.faintstarlite.com/?p=622#comment-3122 I think you are doing a wonderful job! I have been following your tweets, pictures, videos and posts since the beginning, through the birth and everyday since. You are an inspirational woman and mother! You are doing the best you can and that is all anyone can ask. My mother and grandmother struggled with breast feeding as well and I have a feeling one day I probably will too. I will continue to try and try just as you are. Keep up the good work, Jude appreciates all of your efforts. I think you are doing a wonderful job! I have been following your tweets, pictures, videos and posts since the beginning, through the birth and everyday since. You are an inspirational woman and mother! You are doing the best you can and that is all anyone can ask. My mother and grandmother struggled with breast feeding as well and I have a feeling one day I probably will too. I will continue to try and try just as you are. Keep up the good work, Jude appreciates all of your efforts.

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