14th May 10

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Many people fear the application – the length, the depth – but think of it as a learning process. The application is helping you weed through potential issues in your own life that may be obstacles to a successful placement – whether they’re financial or emotional. What’s nice is that filling out the application takes time and if you’re married, it requires both people participate which makes sure that you’re on the same page.

Baby Jude is excited to show his new sister or brother how to eat cake

Baby Jude is excited to show his new sister or brother how to eat cake

It’s one thing to talk theoretically about bringing another child into your life, but it’s another thing to sit down and fill out the necessary paperwork that officially starts the process and the time clock.

Here in Wisconsin, once an application for foster adoption is received the state is now working towards licensing the individual or couple within 120 days. So, filling out an application means you’re ready to commit to potentially being placed with a child in four months.

Being placed with a child doesn’t mean the adoption process has ended – in fact, placement is when it just begins. Foster adoption requires that the family foster until the termination of parental rights (TPR) has occurred, which usually takes between 6 – 22 months.

What to expect in the foster adoption paperwork

The application came to us in multiple parts. We thought the original 10 pages or so was the full application, but in fact, that was only the first part. In total, we probably filled out about 20 pages of paperwork – although some of it turned out to be repetitive information.

Each state’s application looks different, but here’s the questions you can expect:

  • General information about the household with questions about contact information, education and income.
  • Your family’s history with drugs and alcohol and psychiatric treatments – not just your household’s history but those in your extended family as well.
  • Marriage and relationship history – about divorce, co-habitation, and to some degree, your sexual history.
  • Whether child neglect or abuse allegations have ever been filed against you or a family member.
  • Financial worksheet that details what you are worth and how much you spend. This includes all monthly expenses and how much is in your various bank accounts 401(k), investments, and what your properties are worth. It also includes questions regarding debt on mortgages, loans and credit cards.

In addition, along with the application you’ll submit:

  • Health reports. Every member of the household needs to see a doctor who will fill out a health report detailing if you’re all got the required immunizations and are in good health.
  • Fingerprints. Each member of the household above 18 will have to participate by submitting to an extensive background check that includes finger printing that gets cross-checked in the state database as well as the FBI database.
  • Copies of all birth certificates, marriage certificates, Social Security cards, and driver’s licenses.
  • Copies of recent pay stubs and tax returns.
  • Releases so that previous counselors or social services workers can be interviewed.
  • Autobiographical questions about your relationship with your immediate + extended family, details about childhood experiences + traumas, and reasons for deciding to go the foster adoption route.
  • Several references who have known you for several years and can speak about your character – including a reference from your employer.

AdoptUsKids.org – an excellent resource also adds that applicants are responsible for:

  • Being open and honest in filling out the paperwork
  • Cooperating with the criminal background check and protective service checks
  • Asking for help if you don’t understand something
  • Agreeing to maintain confidentiality about the child and their birth family
  • And agreeing to provide nurturing, safe and affectionate care for the child

Watch the video to hear what to expect from the adoption application process:

Step 1: Getting The Facts + Going To An Informational Meeting

Thanks to Johnson & Johnson’s Health channel on YouTube for sponsoring the series!

Comments

  • 18.

    edaj84: [via YouTube] @HannaHasAPlan that is why you need to sign the release forms.7 weeks ago

  • 17.

    edaj84: [via YouTube] @tom13375 she already has a biological child, she is already a MILF.7 weeks ago

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    HannaHasAPlan: [via YouTube] but counselling is confidential….?8 weeks ago

  • 15.

    ByeByeBelly: [via YouTube] Sounds as bad as a visa application. I could never go through it again. Was very degrading to be judged. Dont think I could foster a child.11 weeks ago

  • 14.

    Kristen: I am just so, so excited for you! Reading this is bringing back so many memories. I know all of it is overwhelming and intrusive but it is so, so worth it in the end. (And believe it or not, I actually came to enjoy our social worker’s visits. We became great friends). So excited to follow your journey to placement. I love how you are sharing it and I hope it inspires others to follow!12 weeks ago

  • 13.

    tom13375: [via YouTube] When you get your baby, You’ll be classed as a MILF, that’s a big step up. Do you really want to be classed as such a thing?13 weeks ago

  • 12.

    missnata2010: [via YouTube] I too am about to go through the process of foster adoption. I am so excited about my new path and journey.And I must admit I too was completely shocked when I found out that my agency does do free adoptions.I do plan not to only adopt but to keep fostering for a while too. Is that something that you plan on doing and have you thought of age difference?Congrats on your journey may it be a blessed one!14 weeks ago

  • 11.

    maren: Still stopping over from Blissdom, believe it or not! Maybe one day I’ll get all my ducks in a row… I look forward to following your blog! I’ve always had a heart for adoption. I can’t wait to hear your story!15 weeks ago

  • 10.

    Michelle@Eatingjourney: I am really glad that you’re doing this.15 weeks ago

  • 9.

    Carolyn: I’m so torn about all the inspections and questions that it sounds like they ask you during the approval process, for the same reason stated in your first comment – the majority of people have babies and raise children without ever having to be approved. I’m sure some of those people do not provide loving homes for their children, but lots of them most certainly do. I wonder how many of those parents would pass such a rigorous inspection? Are they potentially weeding out families who would make great parents but don’t have stellar backgrounds? Yet I can absolutely understand how difficult it would be to place a child with a new family – that is a huge responsibility that I am grateful people take seriously. I just wonder if there’s not some better way than to ask about financial and personal history. It doesn’t sound like there’s any good solution.15 weeks ago

  • 8.

    mollybcutie2000: [via YouTube] Informative :) and it really doesn’t seem that complicated.. :)15 weeks ago

  • 7.

    Ikenna uchegbu: Thanks for this wonderful article.I enjoyed every bit of it and I know other people will.15 weeks ago

  • 6.

    ujdo: [via YouTube] That sounds pretty consistent with other states. The home inspection will be fun too. And they tend to show up without calling. Very annoying. You’ll want the state out of your hair ASAP.15 weeks ago

  • 5.

    vida130: [via YouTube] I know this must be the most exciting and scariest undertaking!!15 weeks ago

  • 4.

    GraceMimmo: [via YouTube] Honesty – always the best policy. Good advice ;-)15 weeks ago

  • 3.

    Xenu: [via YouTube] You look very nice, Esther. Not sure if you got a new look or something but you look lovely. Good luck with the adoption process.15 weeks ago

  • 2.

    jwacqui: [via YouTube] You are an amazing person! I love watching you! It’s also really inspiring that you still look amazing! Are you making anymore WW vids? You are an inspiration! And one of the reasons I started making my own videos!15 weeks ago

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    Jlk6532: [via YouTube] isn’t is crazy how much someone goes through to adopt and yet unplanned pregnancies occur so much–and no one asks those couples all these questions before they’re allowed to have a baby–you know?15 weeks ago

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